1. this is so sad for the child.

Posted at 10:19PM on Mar 27th 2007 by Mary

2. this is so sad for the child. i am sure they both love him. it is confusing for him. hopefully he only know's the love they both have for him. no matter what a child HAS A RIGHT TO 2 PARENTS. the child is more important than 2 dumb butts not getting along. GAY OR STRAIGHT!!!! it breaks my heart that there is a young one out there trown into the middle of this.

Posted at 10:26PM on Mar 27th 2007 by Mary

3. In this way, she is less a traitor to the gay community and more of a typical unscrupulous, single-minded, bloodthirsty, win-at-any-cost human being going through a divorce. A lot of people become beasts when they're divorcing.

Every lesbian/gay man is not inherently political and does not put behavior or decisions through a "what's best for the gay community" filter. Ultimately, it's "what's best for me." It sucks. It's also reality.

Posted at 10:34PM on Mar 27th 2007 by Kevyn Abernathy

4. A gay tribunal sounds like a genius plan. Sometimes I fantasize about raising $1 million to buy an Island and start my own Queer-Only country where gay rights are the norm.

From a legal point of view, it's unlikely she'll win this case. She agreed to the adoption in the first place, and if this makes it as far as the court room floor, defense is going to throw that in her face and she's going to left with a watered down rebuttal and a judge who goes "You made your bed, now lie in it." Gay or not - you can't UNDO an adoption simply because you changed your mind.

Posted at 11:01PM on Mar 27th 2007 by Heather

5. This is not the right place to say this, but my computer crashed and Outlook keeps wanting to control my email to you.

Thank you, thank you, thank you for the new layout/ format! I love to visit and read the insightful and meaningful blogs on Queersighted.com!

hugs to all!

Posted at 12:11AM on Mar 28th 2007 by Jan

6. I'll offer two additional bits from the post I wrote on my own blog about this case:

There have been two similar cases recently, one in Ohio and one debated between Vermont and Virginia, in which the bio mothers used anti-LGBT laws to try and deny custody to their former partners. Neither went so far as to try and ban same-sex adoptions, but both constitute the same type of community betrayal.

Lest you think Georgia, with its conservative reputation, doesn’t have that many LGBT families, note that the 2000 U.S. Census indicates that southern and rural states have the highest prevalence of parenting among same-sex couple households, and Georgia has a higher percentage of lesbian couples raising children than California, Massachusetts, New Jersey, New York, or Vermont. (See _Policy Issues Affecting LGBT Families_, Sean Cahill and Sarah Tobias, pp. 16-17.) If Sara Wheeler is really achampion of “motherly rights,” she would be wise to consider the ramifications of her case on all of the other lesbian mothers around her.

See my original post at:
http://tinyurl.com/2m5drv

Posted at 1:23AM on Mar 28th 2007 by Dana

7. OMG! I am amazed at the audacity of some people. We've faught long and hard for marital rights and to have the same rules, that apply to heterosexuals, to apply for us as well. But we can't decide that, because it's no longer convenient for us, we want to take it back. It should be treated as a heterosexual relationship would be treated. It reminds me of people who have no commitment to marriage. They think it's like dating. They get married 2 months after meeting and then 4 months down the road, want to get it annulled. Go-Figure!

Posted at 7:44AM on Mar 28th 2007 by Kathy

8. Can't the gay community organise some sort of excommunication thing to be advertised in free-sheets and on the web, where if you do something hideous like thing, nobody will ever dance with you or mix you a Cosmo ever again.

Posted at 6:48AM on Mar 29th 2007 by Charlie Brennan

9. i just would like to say i been in a relationship for 5yrs with my woman when she met me i had a lil girl she loved here and always was there no matter what we just bought out first house together we r so happy and we give our daughter so much love we sometimes don't focus on us lol but its true and thats what everyone else should do forget about ur personal need between yall and focus on ur children and watch how things will turn out if u stop tryin to hurt each other and give love to ur kids

Posted at 1:03PM on Apr 4th 2007 by marie

10. SELFISH AND STUPID MOVE, BIRTH MOTHER DEAR.
NOW EVEN I CAN SAY, WELL YOU WANT EQUAL RIGHTS UNTIL IT ISN'T A PART OF THE NEW PLAN.I THINK THIS WOMAN SHOULD BE PELTED WITH ROTTEN TOMATOES AND BANISHED TO SAUDI ARABIA.UNDER THESE CIRCUMSTANCES I WOULD GIVE CUSTODY TO MOM 2, SIMPLY FOR THE REASON THAT MOM 1 IS A MORON,AND I QUESTION THE TRUTH OF THE WHOLENESS OF HER LESBIAN IDENTITY.

Posted at 8:41PM on May 1st 2007 by v