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A lesbian in Georgia may single-handedly set gay adoption law in a backward spiral. How? She is playing the gay card in a twisted manner in order to deny shared custody of a child. Get this:
Lesbian #1 and Lesbian #2 fall in love.
Lesbian #1 gets pregnant, has child.
Love is in the air for the happy family with new baby.
Couple asks court to allow Lesbian #2 to legally adopt baby. Done. Now baby has two mommies.
Four years later, love leaves the air and lesbians break up.
Lesbian #1 (birth mom) sues for full custody using the argument that since the law in Georgia (their home state) doesn't specifically allow gay adoption, the adoptive mother has zero parental rights.
Sara Wheeler, aka Lesbian #1, was happy to ask the court to treat her and her partner with respect by recognizing the needs of gay and lesbian families and approving the adoption ... Until
it became legally expedient for her to ask the court to interpret the law in a way that treats gay families unequally and rule the adoption null and void because their state has no law that specifically says gays can adopt.
Sara Wheeler knows her lawsuit could threaten the rights of all gay families who have adopted in Georgia, but she doesn't care. Sara Wheeler is selling gays down the river because she reportedly got a new girlfriend and wants nothing to do with the old one. Even though their son bonded with Missy, mom #2, until he was four years old, Sara Wheeler deems the relationship between Missy and their son meaningless.
Stories like this make me crazy. Sometimes I fantasize about having a gay tribunal where we could deal with traitors to the gay community. This is one of those times.
Thoughts?
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Wednesday 28 March
By Kathy
OMG! I am amazed at the audacity of some people. We've faught long and hard for marital rights and to have the same rules, that apply to heterosexuals, to apply for us as well. But we can't decide that, because it's no longer convenient for us, we want to take it back. It should be treated as a heterosexual relationship would be treated. It reminds me of people who have no commitment to marriage. They think it's like dating. They get married 2 months after meeting and then 4 months down the road, want to get it annulled. Go-Figure!
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Tuesday 27 March
By Kevyn Abernathy
In this way, she is less a traitor to the gay community and more of a typical unscrupulous, single-minded, bloodthirsty, win-at-any-cost human being going through a divorce. A lot of people become beasts when they're divorcing.
Every lesbian/gay man is not inherently political and does not put behavior or decisions through a "what's best for the gay community" filter. Ultimately, it's "what's best for me." It sucks. It's also reality.
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Tuesday 27 March
By Mary
this is so sad for the child.
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Tuesday 27 March
By Heather
A gay tribunal sounds like a genius plan. Sometimes I fantasize about raising $1 million to buy an Island and start my own Queer-Only country where gay rights are the norm.
From a legal point of view, it's unlikely she'll win this case. She agreed to the adoption in the first place, and if this makes it as far as the court room floor, defense is going to throw that in her face and she's going to left with a watered down rebuttal and a judge who goes "You made your bed, now lie in it." Gay or not - you can't UNDO an adoption simply because you changed your mind.
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Tuesday 27 March
By Mary
this is so sad for the child. i am sure they both love him. it is confusing for him. hopefully he only know's the love they both have for him. no matter what a child HAS A RIGHT TO 2 PARENTS. the child is more important than 2 dumb butts not getting along. GAY OR STRAIGHT!!!! it breaks my heart that there is a young one out there trown into the middle of this.
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Wednesday 28 March
By Jan
This is not the right place to say this, but my computer crashed and Outlook keeps wanting to control my email to you.
Thank you, thank you, thank you for the new layout/ format! I love to visit and read the insightful and meaningful blogs on Queersighted.com!
hugs to all!
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Wednesday 28 March
By Dana
I'll offer two additional bits from the post I wrote on my own blog about this case:
There have been two similar cases recently, one in Ohio and one debated between Vermont and Virginia, in which the bio mothers used anti-LGBT laws to try and deny custody to their former partners. Neither went so far as to try and ban same-sex adoptions, but both constitute the same type of community betrayal.
Lest you think Georgia, with its conservative reputation, doesnt have that many LGBT families, note that the 2000 U.S. Census indicates that southern and rural states have the highest prevalence of parenting among same-sex couple households, and Georgia has a higher percentage of lesbian couples raising children than California, Massachusetts, New Jersey, New York, or Vermont. (See _Policy Issues Affecting LGBT Families_, Sean Cahill and Sarah Tobias, pp. 16-17.) If Sara Wheeler is really achampion of motherly rights, she would be wise to consider the ramifications of her case on all of the other lesbian mothers around her.
See my original post at:
http://tinyurl.com/2m5drv
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Thursday 29 March
By Charlie Brennan
Can't the gay community organise some sort of excommunication thing to be advertised in free-sheets and on the web, where if you do something hideous like thing, nobody will ever dance with you or mix you a Cosmo ever again.
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Wednesday 04 April
By marie
i just would like to say i been in a relationship for 5yrs with my woman when she met me i had a lil girl she loved here and always was there no matter what we just bought out first house together we r so happy and we give our daughter so much love we sometimes don't focus on us lol but its true and thats what everyone else should do forget about ur personal need between yall and focus on ur children and watch how things will turn out if u stop tryin to hurt each other and give love to ur kids
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Tuesday 01 May
By v
SELFISH AND STUPID MOVE, BIRTH MOTHER DEAR.
NOW EVEN I CAN SAY, WELL YOU WANT EQUAL RIGHTS UNTIL IT ISN'T A PART OF THE NEW PLAN.I THINK THIS WOMAN SHOULD BE PELTED WITH ROTTEN TOMATOES AND BANISHED TO SAUDI ARABIA.UNDER THESE CIRCUMSTANCES I WOULD GIVE CUSTODY TO MOM 2, SIMPLY FOR THE REASON THAT MOM 1 IS A MORON,AND I QUESTION THE TRUTH OF THE WHOLENESS OF HER LESBIAN IDENTITY.
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