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When Lesbian Surf Blogger Comes Out To Readers, Some Rain On Her (Pride) Parade

A friend of mine and fellow blogger recently came to me because she wanted to "out" herself to the readers of her blog, Queen of the Surf Pirates, which is a surf-oriented blog focused on the Outer Banks of North Carolina. My friend, "Paula the Surf Mom" decided recently that she's been living in her blog's closet for long enough. She asked me for some advice on how to "come out" to her readers (a lot of whom are men) and increase her gay and lesbian following, especially in the OBX. Paula has been happily partnered for 10 years and has two adorable twin daughters. She is the epitome of what many of us strive for in the gay community: happy and healthy with a successful career and beautiful family.

I suggested to Paula that she start doing a review of the beautiful women on HBO's new show John From Cincinnati which she did, and also laced her blog with a few pieces of gay-pride-representing visuals. If you ask me, she did a great job of "coming out" to her readers in a tactful and friendly way. Unfortunately for her, it was not received as well as she would have liked. Some members of a forum that Paula frequents have decided her blog is no longer fit to link there. She said that this would not normally be a problem for her, but she gets a large portion of her blog traffic from the site and as any blogger would agree, it's traffic that she is reluctant to lose.

To make matters worse, they have started complaining to the site owner about her content and one individual has started sending e-mails to some other members that read like this:

Bilerico: No Longer Just a Blog, Now It's a Project

When QueerSighted had its extreme makeover earlier this year and we added a few bloggers to join me in ranting and raving, the puckish Dan Renzi, my arch-nemesis (I actually adore him), wrote this about me: "and now he has an 'online community'. He's multiplying!"

I might say the same of our friends over at Bilerico, whose blogger ranks have reproduced so rapidly in the past two weeks they make bunny reproduction seem about as high-yielding as a roomful of ex-gay wannabe-heterosexuals.

Now known as the Bilerico Project, the new and improved blog features a slew of contributors who will write about GLBT culture and activism. Some of the cast includes folks like HRC prez Joe Solmonese, Task Force head Matt Foreman, and Nat. Center for Transgender Equality exec. director Mara Keisling. Also featured are Candace Gingrich, author Patricia Nell Warren, bloggers Pam Spaulding, Lane Hudson, Mike Rogers and others who will be sharing their opinions with readers.

We wish Bilerico Project founder and managing editor Bil Browning, and the whole Bilerico crew, the best on their new venture and urge QueerSighted readers to add them to your reading list. They're good people!

This post by site editor Alex Blaze caught my eye today: 'Dykes on Bikes Now Have Legal Protection.'



New York Lesbian Bloggers Will Roast Some Weenies

My pal Curly McDimple asked me if I'd give a shout to let people know about a blogger social gathering happening this weekend. I had to comply.

Why? One reason is that Curly McDimple's blog, Ham and Cheese on Wry, currently holds the title of Best Lesbian Blog. Not one of the best, THE BEST, as voted on last year by readers of the Lesbian Lifestyle. Like I can say no to her, right? The other reason is that she's one cool chick -- and she doesn't mind that I call her "chick," which makes her even cooler.

So if you want to meet Curly and a bunch of other interesting women, join 'em. I think everyone's invited -- it's a GLBT blogger thingy -- but the lesbians are driving the train. Curly put it this way: "Since the kick-ass Helen the Felon and I were frequently the lone vaginas at these [gay-guy-blogger driven] soirees, we decided that the gay female blogging community in the NYC area needed to represent. And thus, we bring you the first-ever Weenie Roast..."

If you go, tell Curly that QueerSighted sent ya.



Top 10 Things I Learned At a Lesbian 4th Of July BBQ:

10. Lesbians can turn any backyard into a gay PRIDE parade and shut down major streets in the process.

9. Saying you're a "body inspector" is the best way to feel up drunk lesbians. For some reason, their intoxicated lesbian brains translate this phrase into some sort of legitimate title. I'm just upset that I only thought of it about an hour before I left the BBQ.

8. Lesbians are really serious about beer pong. Even the most civilized lesbian becomes a contestant on Family Fued once this game is set into motion. It's the only time I've seen flying balls excite that many lesbians.

7. Lesbians lose their ever-lovin' minds when "Since You've Been Gone" is played over a sound system. You can be having a very casual conversation about politics and surfing, but as soon as the dj pops that song on, lesbians LOSE it. I'm talkin', flip the eff out! And gay guys appear out of nowhere. Seriously, it was like they beamed themselves from Gay Bar-b-q across town when their gay sensors went off. They appeared just long enough to dance their tight-shirt wearing a$$es off and then return to the mother ship.

6. If 50-100 lesbians are in one place for more than 2 hours...

'Xanadu' on Broadway and 'Wicked' in Japan: Yup, I'm Serious ...

Happy Friday, readers!

Call me a bad gay. Go on, do it. I'm a bad gay because I've never seen the movie, 'Xanadu.' The only reference I have of the movie is, of course, Olivia Newton-John. I even remember years ago when HBO showed her concert (over and over and over again), they showed a montage of all of her movies and videos. And 'Xanadu' popped up on the screen for, like, six seconds. But I was always intrigued by those six seconds. Really I was ...

Why Gossip Blogs Want to Make Kelly Clarkson a Lesbian

Delicious rumors abound that Kelly Clarkson is a big old lesbo. When I heard this, I just had to get to the bottom of it and find out what's driving the sudden gay attention. It turns out, it's much a-gay about nothing.


Kelly Clarkson was recently photographed in an amazing gender-bending look complete with mullet-esque fauxhawk in the July issue of Elle magazine (seen above). In the article, Clarkson says:

"My point of view is that I shouldn't be a mother at all, because I'd be horrible. I'm not willing to be that selfless. I'm not keen on marriage. I don't let many people in. Men come and go. Friends are what I care about. And I'm fine with [seeing unflattering paparazzi shots of herself]. I just don't care. I don't wear makeup in public. I don't worry about what I'm wearing."
The gossip bloggers have then taken this information and run with it, like Jonathan, who proclaims Kelly's gayness here. Or Popcrunch.com who has run the headline: Kelly Clarkson In An Accused Lesbian. First of all, murderers are accused, Lesbians are invited to be lesbian by God herself. Secondly, if saying you aren't keen on marriage, don't want kids and don't wear makeup makes you a lesbian than saying you don't support the war and hate Bush must make you a terrorist. You can explain that to all the gorgeous, single feminists who are straight (and the hippies who are pacifists).

Gossip bloggers can't come up with enough original content for their blogs to generate traffic so instead they

QueerSighted Women are Coming and Going



No, that headline isn't the name of a new line of adult videos. Actually, I have good news and I have bad news to report. Here's the good news:

Two marvelous new women have joined our QueerSighted ranks starting today. I'm super excited about these gals because they both make me laugh and I'm pretty sure they will you, too.

Check out their bios below, then fasten your tool belts and settle in for lesbian entertainment at its best. Or, as Arlan likes to say, "let's get this party started" (Arlan promises to only say "get this party started" once or twice a week.)

Welcome Renee and Arlan!


Renee Gannon
"When I'm not working for the man, I enjoy surfing, playing rugby, checking out the LA gay scene, obsessing over American Idol, skateboarding and helping the cats practice for auditions." -- Read Renee's full bio here.



Arlan Hamilton
"my name is Arlan. im 26. im a chick. i am married to Katharine Mcphee. we are married. we are wed. we make sweet love. true story. if you wanna know more about me, believe rumors. or if you're more enterprising than that, START some rumors about me! but make sure they all include the words "arlan is married to kat mcphee." -- Read Arlan's full bio here.


Now the bad news. Today we are saying goodbye to two amazing women who have been writing for QueerSighted since it launched a mere 12 weeks ago.

Kevyn Abernathy is up to her ears in freelance writing projects (lucky!) and can only squeeze in so many hours in a day to do them all -- she's only one woman, you know. I have appreciated Kevyn's insights here -- especially her perspective as a woman who came out late in life and was a "baby dyke" at the age of *#*% (<-- bleeped out).

Rebecca Armendariz is also leaving us. She's moving on to a new job at the esteemed GLBT newspaper the Washington Blade where she will serve as its fab online editor. Never let it be said that a gig at QueerSighted isn't a stepping stone to greatness. I am going to miss her sitting next to me, especially since Mika is her ringtone and this has brought me a huge amount of joy on a daily basis. She also tells me when I look "adorable," and that's important. (I miss her already.)

Join me in wishing the best of luck to Kevyn and Rebecca.

Krypto Goes World Wide Web

Krypto, QueerSighted's canem homosexualis mascot, has doggedly refused to come out from under his 1,500 thread count Egyptian cotton Mesa Sunrise Ralph Lauren comforter ever since he was celebrated on the fabulous celebrity pet blog Animal Hubbub, And why is Krypto featured on the coolest pet blog ever? Because the editors over there heard that my dogs are gay -- way gay -- and invited me to out them to the entire World Wide Web. Click on over and get the homo-canine details.

The only problem now is that with his newfound fame, Krypto is no longer able to mark out 42nd Street without being hounded by a rabid pack of paparazzi. Having just watched The Queen (no, not me, the Helen Mirren flic) he fears suffering a Princess Diana fate.

Re-Activated Gay Sailor Answers Questions

Jason KnightLast week QueerSighted reported that Petty Officer 3rd Class Jason Knight had been called back to active duty by the U.S. Navy, even though the military had previously discharged him for being gay.

Today, blogger Pam Spaulding along with SLDN posted a Q&A with Jason Knight in which he answers a slew of questions we've all been wondering about. Like how did it happen exactly that Knight was re-activated? Why did he go back? Is he single?

Knight speaks frankly about his experience and how the events that have unfolded have put him in a rather unique situation to be able speak about Don't Ask, Don't Tell. Knight talks up close and personal about what life as a gay person serving in today's U.S. military is like.
"Why didn't I refuse to go back? Well, for one, I got the orders and they said "Involuntarily Recalled". However, it wasn't until I had actually gotten to Kuwait that I found that was just formality, and that it was voluntary. But, all in all, I think I would have gone regardless. There is a sense of pride in defending your nation, whether I agree with the war or not, I still love the Navy and would fight side by side with my fellow servicemembers." -- Jason Knight

Check out: Q&A with Jason Knight, The Out Gay Sailor Who Was Recalled to Active Duty

Screen Time

I know some of your porn names now. And [bonus] some of your drag names. I've never done drag and I haven't done porn. So, really, I have no use for a porn name. Well, maybe...

I've done one porn. But it was a long time ago, and it was home made porn, which totally doesn't count. No one will ever see it. Yes, I know -

Paris Hilton.
Pamela Anderson.
Colin Farrell
.

All home made porn, and all seen round the world thanks to the www.

The thing is, though, those are big names. No one would be clamoring to see my little video, even if the voice over on it is pretty good. But, I'm digressing here. The mere mention of porn will do that to me. Like I said, I've never professionally done porn. I have, however, been an extra in a movie. This movie -

Boy Culture

If you can take your eyes off of Darryl Stephens and Derek Magyar for a moment, you can find me in the wedding and reception scenes. I'm in the pew behind them at the wedding.

Blue pinstripe suit.
Blue shirt.
Blue and yellow tie.

That's me.

Did you read Dan Savage's review of the movie? Not the best review, right?

Whatever.
I enjoyed it.

Of course, I'm in the movie. Not that I'll win any awards for my acting. As a matter of fact, I don't even have lines.

Um...

What is it that Gloria Swanson says in Sunset Boulevard - I can say anything I want with my eyes?

I pretty sure in Boy Culture my eyes are saying - You're a deer and you're caught in the headlights. I'm not positive though because I close my eyes when I see myself up on the screen.

A'ight.

That's all I got.
Take care.
Love you.

Nicky

Gay 'Electrobabble'

writer Rick ReedWriter Rick Reed, one of my favorite friends on my MySpace page, has a nice analysis today on his blog about what he calls 'Electrobabble.'

About the term "not into the gay scene," Rick writes:

What is the gay scene? I'm gay, don't go to bars much, but love to cook, read, and go to movies. Is that the gay scene? Mark is gay and big into sports. He's on volleyball and softball teams, belongs to a gay running group and is on his bike all summer. Is that the gay scene? Luke is in the closet and frequents places like the bathhouses and adult bookstores. Is that the gay scene? The point is there's no such thing as a gay scene, any more than there's a straight scene. We're all different, the only thing we really have in common is our sexual orientation and even with that, there's a wide range of scenes. If you're talking about going out to bars a lot, say that.

Other electrobabble he tackles includes:

Straight acting and appearing.
Neg. UB2.
VGL.
41 but look 30.
No fats or femmes.

Check out his post. It's worth a read. (Mature Content)


Monday Easter Monday

If you're like me you've probably just come down off of your Easter Chocolate high. Or maybe, you were on something harder, Jelly Bellys, for instance. Or peeps.

Personally, I can't do the hard stuff. Yeah, I'm a wuss like that. I stick to chocolate. Back in the 1980s, Nancy Reagan [or Mr. T I can't remember which] taught us to just say no to candy um, I mean, drugs.

Not that I thought about it before but, the Easter Bunny, he's sort of like a dealer, isn't he?

Oh, I should get to who I am, and why I'm here. I'm a new blogger here on Queer Sighted. My name is Nicky.
That's me -

Photo: Nicholas Ajax Stamos

Nicholas Ajax Stamos

There's a bio here should you be interested in that kind of thing.
Of course, a bio doesn't tell you everything.

Mine for example doesn't mention that -

  • I prefer Prince Harry to Prince William
  • Once, I made out with an Elvis impersonator [in a trailer,at the fair].
  • I don't smoke

Or that

Getting back to the Easter Bunny dealers, though, wasn't there a song back in the 1970s called The Candyman? Wasn't that song about drugs? Or am I way off there?

These days, Christina Aguilera is singing about a candyman...



But this candyman, he's a whole new flavor.

April Fools for Andrew Sullivan

Conservative gay blogger Andrew Sullivan was trolling the blogosphere yesterday when he stumbled upon a post by Michael Petrelis's seemingly newsworthy post about the HRC. We all know that Sullivan has been ranting against the Human Rights Campaign for a bit now. He's angry, in sum, about where the money's going. He recently said that the org is "a corporation designed to milk the gay market for money to hire more fundraisers and marketers to milk more gay pockets."

As much as I respect someone with such strong and well-argued opinions, I'm inclined to think that Andrew hasn't quite gotten his hands dirty with the research needed to fully back up his claims as far as salaries and spending go.

Andrew lost a bit of credibility yesterday when Michael Petrelis put a joke post on his blog to celebrate the holiday. In it, he said that the HRC had hired a gay Republican, Steve Gunderson, to be the new co-director. The post starts off on a legitimate note and sounds like a real news story. A few paragraphs down, however, things start to get obviously fake.

Andrew Sullivan latched on to this tasty tidbit and put it on his own blog immediately, titling the post "HRC Surrenders". Had Mr. Sullivan, whom I love and respect dearly, read the entire story, he would have noticed that he himself was quoted nine short paragraphs into it: "Blimey, I had no bloody idea the HRC chaps were genuinely keen to work with people they don't like or respect. Maybe they'll also now address my questions on their membership numbers." I got a good chuckle out of this one. The post is still on Andrew's Daily Dish as of the time of my writing this.

Blatant Pandering

Yes, we're still pandering to your basest instincts as we work work to get your vote. So here's your third straight day of penis; and not just penis but penis with a promise. This writer will personally cover the upcoming National Underwear Day festivities in Times Square and provide an extravaganza of breathtaking photographs (making this one from my visit of last year pale by comparison.) But I will only do this is if we win the Sweet Sixteen Round of March Gayness. No other blogger on the web has the nerve to get up close and personal with the boys the way I do (I bring bait) so you really want to vote. Make your friends vote. Put pressure on your clergy, local school board, congressional representative and any random queers wasting their lives in Internet Cafes. Don't let a trashy gossip blog that panders to your basest instincts triumph over wit and insight. Show the Malcontent that our community has more substance than that!

Can QueerSighted Compete With Colin Farrell's Penis?

Last week, our gentle readers made the athletic dreams of the QueerSighted bloggers come true by voting for us in the 2007 March Gayness bracket for gay blogs, hosted by our pals at The Malcontent. Thanks to you, we scored (!) and made it to the Sweet 16 with a narrow upset over our esteemed colleague Boi From Troy, a gentleman and -- unlike me -- an actual sportsman.

Madame Now we are in a fight for our life in the Big 8 round against none other than the OMG blog (<--- mature and possibly NSFW), purveyors of juicy gossip photos like that of Rumer Willis, daughter of Bruce Willis, doing tricks with condoms, as well as unexpected pictures of kittens and puppies and their mainstay franchise, 'OMG He's Naked,' featuring embarrassing and/or hot photos of nude celebrities including, recently, Colin Farrell in all his glory.

I admit I'm a fan. Does that mean I want us to lose to them, though? Hell, no! And that's where you come in. Please vote again in this new round for QueerSighted's brains and wit over OMG's gossipy goodies. You will feel so much better about yourself in the morning. And Richard Rothstein asks that when you are done voting, bully your friends, family, clergy and congressional representatives into voting, too.

To get into the Big Eight, QueerSighted is literally competing with Colin Farrell's penis (aka the Big 8 the Big 6.5). Can we beat that? We can sure try.

Click here to vote in the Big 8 in 2007 March Gayness.
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